[Rosier]

That's the only real thing I would be able to think of. I had a friend who was questioning whether or not she was a lesbian, she figured the best way to figure out would be to go on a few dates and see if she felt any romantic inklings. Perhaps if he's up to it and you would be able to, you could offer to set him up on a date. At the very least, he'd be able to relax and have a good time with someone, even if there's no sexual attraction.
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[mychael_black]

I second Rosier. Being there for him if he needs a friendly ear is the best thing you can do. Though I imagine asking him about possible dates to test the waters might be cool...
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[bardohio]

Is your new lover-boy acquainted with your confused mate? If so, have you discussed his situation with your lover? However much you may want to help your friend, you need to keep in mind that you are two now, and should not make any rash moves without at least a consult.

It might even be that the two of you together can be more help to your friend than either of you could be separately - if nothing else, the two of you could introduce your friend to the gay bar where you met...
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[creechy]

yeah, having my bf does make things more complicated...he gets a bit jelous of other guys sometimes, he knows that my mates is a bit confused, i didnt want to hide anything from him, but he isnt very good at hiding the fact that he is a bit uncomfortable with me trying to help, and going out drinking with my friend.

And honestly, although i love him very much, my bf isnt the brightest spark there ever was so i've not gone into any depth of the matter with him, just told him the basics so he knows roughly what is going on. Although he did remember that when we started going out, and he asked me what my fav features of his were, which led onto the subject of usual types u go for and tbh, my mate is more what i look for in a guy than my bf and my bf pointed this out.

why do i try to fix other ppl's problems when i hav my own life to live lol.

[Rosier]

There's a small thrill in knowing enough to help people. This is why I have fallen in love with Yahoo! Answers.

Anyways, I think people tend to have aspects in their friends that are what they are looking for in a partner. That's how you end up with relationships without the relationship. You're bf obviously has something your friends is lacking, the chemistry.
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[creechy]

just a brief update, the bastard cheated on me the day b4 our 6 month anniversary and has only just told me 3 week later

[James Buchanan]

[dhamphere90]

You at least have more courage than me, I just fantasize and write stories about the men in my life. I'm in almost the same position as you, except the man I like sits next to me in two classes, always very kind towards me, acts like he's into guys, but he has a girlfriend.

I finally got the courage to admit I "care for him" on Wednesday because it was his birthday, but I have no clue how that will go. He's a football player, friends with a guy who has made my life hell since fifth grade, and can be really dense a lot of the time.

Do you guys think I did the right thing?

(sorry, that was supposed to be encouraging to you creechy, but it kinda turned into a plea for reassurance...I'm sorry!! Hope all went well, and don't let your girlfriends rip him apart, it gets kinda messy...)

[scotts822]