[bardohio]

In conjunction with another post on this forum as to how we define what it means to be a "real" man, here we go again: some of us at this website define ourselves (label ourselves?) as "...a man trapped in a woman's body" or as "...a woman trapped in a man's body". My question to all that is what makes anyone a woman? How do we define what it means to be a "real" woman?

So - here's your chance to rush in where Angels fear to tread - I'll start you off with a few thoughts and then you folks tell me (and the rest of us) what we all really need to know:

1) You may be a woman if...
...you spend more time each day fussing with your make-up,hair, and clothes than you do becoming informed - and taking action on - such socio-political issues as global warming.

2) You may be a woman if...
...having (i.e., physically carrying and giving birth to), nurturing, and raising children defines you - and rewards you - more than does a successful working career or a stimulating sex/love life.

3) You may be a woman if...
...in a crisis (no matter how big or how small), you expect to be taken care of right now, in that moment, rather than dealing with the overall crisis and the needs of others first and your personal/emotional/physical needs later.

Thoughts?? BardOhio

[Captain Jack]

he,he...I like this. Okay, here goes: you may be a woman if: what makes you proud is your looks (i.e breast size, hair color, etc)rather than how many people you have had sex with or how succesful you have become in life.

Is that the kind of stuff your looking for BardOhio? [P.S. I mean absolutly NO offense to anyone by this post]
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[bardohio]

[mychael_black]

*chuckles* Does it come as a surprise at this point that I fit NOTHING y'all have said yet?

Hmm, honestly, I don't know how I'd define what it means to be a woman...
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You might be a woman if you can talk on the phone for 4 1/2 hours about absolutely nothing...
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[mychael_black]

O.o Never done that. LOL
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[mychael_black]

Oh, interesting topic...

Speaking as someone who very much identifies as such, I first realized it when I pre-teen, around 12 or so. I had more male friends than female; didn't care much for the "girl" stuff, whereas the "boy" stuff was far more interesting; and when I "roleplayed" with a female friend, I always ended up the "guy", which suited me just fine.

Fast forward to about 2-3 years ago...

I had an epiphany, of sorts. Having been married twice (and now in my third serious relationship), I saw the het side of life. I had kids, the whole nine yards. But I wasn't happy. Something wasn't clicking in my brain. Something was *missing*.

Then I started writing--not just scribbling pointless drabble here and there, but actual writing. And, around the same time, I had my first experience, so to speak, with my gods. (I don't separate my sexuality from my spirituality, or vise versa.) It took a good bit of soul-searching on my part, but I finally let go of the molds I was trying to fit into, and simply let myself be.

Now, roughly 3 years later, I call myself 'omnigendered', for want of a better term. Why not transgendered? Because I'm not ready to transition--the cost and quality of surgeries is far from feasible. If I *could* afford it, and if the surgeries were absolutely perfect, then yes, I would transition from female to male without hesitation.

Mychael Black is the person on the inside. Kay Derwydd is simply another pen name at this point. I identify more as Mychael. And, a lot of folks I know see me as Mychael (the man) as opposed to Kay (the woman), and when someone calls me Mr. Black, I can't begin to explain how good that feels.

(Okay, so maybe that was a bit lengthier than I'd intended. LOL)
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[mychael_black]

Amen to every single word.

Yeah, strap-ons and such are nice, but there's a strong part lacking, and not necessarily physical. It's more psychological--you KNOW what you should be feeling...but you're not feeling it.

You're more than welcome to email me if you want to chat off-forum, by the way.
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[bardohio]

I like the idea of being 'omnigendered' - sex is sex is sex, and pleasure is pleasure is pleasure, and the more we label ourselves the more we divide ourselves.

I'm not about division - G-d is One, and we, as humans, made in G-d's image, should also be one - mentally, culturally, emotionally, physically, and everyone else in the Lee Family - not the same (individual-Lee) but together.
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[mychael_black]

*nods* As Popeye says: "I yam what I yam." *grins*
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You are something that's for sure.

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[mychael_black]

[axsiter]

You should post this topic on the LUSTY LIBRARY site so that the women could post their response!